For some people, the thought of wearing dark clothes seems out of place or just plain wrong. This is especially true if your loved one was bubbly or uplifting. In this case, wearing dark and somber colored clothing does not reflect the personality of the deceased. Rather than dressing in black, the deceased would probably have preferred bright and colorful clothes to honor them.
If you have an upcoming funeral, you might find yourself in this predicament. Although there is no perfect answer to this, we can offer the following advice.
When in doubt, always play it safe and dress conservatively.
If the family feels that colorful clothing would be a great way to pay tribute, they will be the ones to let you know. If this is the case, they will express this desire to the funeral director or include it on their loved one’s obituary.
However, they may want to have a more traditional funeral service and might feel it is disrespectful if guests are in bright clothing. If you are unsure, we recommend speaking with the funeral director. In the time leading up to the service, the family should not be bothered with questions about clothing choices.